Confidence

The presence of confidence free you to go where your heart leads you and to do what you want to do. Confidence gives you strength with style. It generates a non-physical aura which captures the conscious attention of people around you. It is something which other admires and is a trust in your ability. With confidence, you will always solve whatever problem you will ever be confronted with. Everybody already have confidence, however one might probably not have it when one wants it or where one wants it.

Confidence is knowing, it is an inner certainty and an absolutely nothing can change it, it comes with super conviction in the mind. Confidence is a mental state that you can develop if you are prepared to pay the price. Confidence is something you cannot afford to be without If you want to live a meaningful life.

If you are an average employee in an average position, you will require confidence to start and build a successful company. Any athlete will tell you, if there is no confidence there will be no medal, rather there will be no Olympics. Without confidence you will have a great difficulty meeting and greeting a stranger. Without confidence you would look as clumsy as a baby attempting to walk for the first time. Confidence is a passport to a fun-filled and exciting life. Confidence is without question strength with style. Confidence is a most powerful attention grabber.

Take the example if you are going to parachute out of a plane, you need to have a lot of confidence on the parachute, the materials, how is it constructed, how it is packed etc. the more you know about the parachute, your confidence would increase or decrease. If the material used is good and the quality of construction is also good, you will gain in confidence and if the material used is bad and the construction is also not up to the mark you will lose on the confidence in the parachute. Your confidence in parachute is determined by your knowledge of the parachute. Similarly, the more knowledge you have and understanding about yourself, the greater will be your confidence. Self-confidence is what permits you to move ahead in life. Self-confidence is what gives you a license to have a positive attitude about your ability to become competent in any area you presently know little about.

For example, a person who has always held a position in an administrative role in a company, suddenly shows a desire to move to a sales role where their major part of salary is paid based on commission. If the person has abundant of self-confidence, he will know that he can with proper study and effort become very competent sales person. Conversely, a person with low self-confidence will mentally entertain nothing but doubt, every time the thought of selling comes to his mind and when the thought of commission linked to sales comes to his mind, fear would dominate his mind, mentally paralyzing him. He will not be able to make such move, because of lack of self-confidence and he will in most cases end up doing the same thing, even though is largely frustrated with what he is doing and always suppresses his heart’s desire. This frustration effect every aspect of life for the individual – mentally and physically.

People who have done great works do not possess any special quality, only difference is that they have merely developed an awareness of how to do something greater than you and I may be doing. It is said that “to think that they can and you can’t is an error”, in reality it is “If they can, you can.” Confidence is a feeling which is created when the soul and the spirit connects. Confidence is the feeling which comes to you when you know you can. Confidence is feeling at home regardless.

It is also important to know that your heart will never truly desire to do something that you are not capable of doing, it is as if God has placed in each one of us a genetic governor which prevents us from wanting to do something beyond our own level of awareness and capability. You can live your dream, how this will happen is not important, knowing that it must happen is important.

Whether you have confidence or not is nothing to do with what is happening outside of you, it is determined by what is going on inside of you. It will be your confidence that will keep you going when your ideas are rejected, you got to be your own best friend, you got to learn to love yourself. Nobody pursues meaningful goals by thinking they are not good enough, you are good enough, you are better than good enough. There is no one formula to follow for believing in yourself, you have to strengthen your mind, be persistent with your ideas, and courageously follow your dream.

When you connect with your spirit, the result is confidence. Confidence is essential to live a free and creative life. The world is full of nice people with no confidence, they lose and they keep losing year after year. They remain in dull and boring positions of employment, business and personal life. They lack the confidence of making a change. A very high percentage of these nice people are also very intelligent with excellent and impressive academic results but they are losing frequently because they lack confidence. They do not even expect to win, they are not happy and their frustration seems to be endless and they do not know what to do.

It is essential that one should get out of this situation and instill self-confidence and courage to take action and create a free and creative life. Three steps are suggested to improve on confidence:

1.       Check your self-image:  What kind of the picture come to your mind when you think of yourself. When you build a picture of your dream, see yourself as a happy, healthy and prosperous individual. As long as you hold the image of your dream, the image will drive the action in that direction. It will also dictate what is attracted into your life. The more you permit the ideas to move into the feeling side your personality, the more confident you will be. Your level of confidence is doing to be in direct proportion to your awareness;

2.       Check your strengths and weaknesses: List down your strengths and weaknesses. You manage your weaknesses and put your disproportionate energy into developing your strengths. Keep getting better on your strengths until you have absolutely mastered it. People generally do what they enjoy most, they enjoy because they are good at it. You will get lot of conviction in what you do by strengthening your strengths;

3.       Train your mind to see in all people what many do not see in themselves: Begin to see all person you come in contact with as the most important person in the world. Look for what they do well and let them know you noticed it. Give everyone a sincere and merited compliment. The good you find in others, is the reflection of good you see in yourself. You should have confidence to turn big dreams into reality. When the dream is big enough, facts do not count. Compliment everyone, every day;

To sum-up confidence is a key ingredient for leading a successful life. When you feel confident you are in complete harmony with the universe. It gives you style with strength and sets up a vibration which causes others to trust your ability and it instills in them a feeling of safety. Lack of or no self-confidence causes life to be filled with doubt and fear. Confident people never permits failure to reverse their growth pattern nor do they permit other peoples criticism to impact them.You are not born with confidence but however anyone can develop confidence if one is ready to pay the price. The only difference in people is in appearance and results, we all have the same potential.

Source : Power of Mind Games by Bob Proctor