You could currently be faced with
a thousand problems, many or most of which you have no control over, however
there is one thing where you have absolute control over, that is your own
attitude. Attitude is the most powerful word. Attitude is the magic word.
When you surrender control of
your attitude to what appears to be a negative situation you will then do only
thing you would be capable of doing. You will react to the situation and when
that happens you lose. On the other hand if you are to remain objective, you
will respond to the situation appropriately and that is always the winner’s
choice. The end result of these two different approaches are poles apart.
There are many things wrong in
this world, unfortunately that is all some people are able to see. These people
live dark, narrow lives, they are unhappy and have accomplished little which is
of any meaning throughout their lives. Their lives are one of lack and
limitation and it seems they continue to move from one bad experience to
another. Unfortunately their attitude is the cause of their problems. It is
unfortunate that they are generally not aware of the cause of their unwanted
lifestyle. They are losing at every turn on the road of life and they do not even
know why they are losing. Conversely there are those who are forever winning.
They are the real movers and shakers, the lucky ones. Lucky because good things
keep coming their way. They focus their attention on the beauty that surrounds
them wherever they go. Their life is exciting and adventurous. They go from one
major accomplishment to another. This group enjoys a wonderful family life and
they develop deep and meaningful relationship with others. They are in control
of their life. They know where they are going and they know that they will get
there. They are real winners in life and their wins are a matter of choice.
Winners knows that everything can
be better. Attitude is everything to the winner. Attitude can be defined, it
can be understood and can be controlled by anyone. Attitude is the composite of
your thoughts, your feelings and your actions. Attitude is actually a creative
cycle which begins with your choice of thoughts. You do choose your thoughts,
and that choice is where your attitude originates. Thought is energy and is
considered by many as the most potent form of energy in existence. As you
internalize your thoughts and get emotionally involved with your thoughts you set
up your stage in forming an attitude. You move your entire being, mind and body
into a new vibration. Your conscious awareness of this vibration is nothing but
feeling. Your feelings are then expressed in actions or behavior and this is
the final stage of forming an attitude which produces various results in your
life. Attitude and results are inseparable, they follow one other like the
night follows the day.
For you to make the progress you
are capable of making, you must understand the cause and effect relationship of
attitude to results. A person is what they think about all day long. A person’s
life is what their thoughts make of it. The results you achieve in life is
nothing more than an expression of your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Everything in life has two sides, positive and negative. We all decide to
choose to look at the positive or negative sides of any situation we come
across in life, however you need to understand that you are able to see only
one side at a time, the conscious mind is not able to think of two things at
once. Those who win are aware of the negative, however their conscious mind focuses
always on the positive. If they are not able to see positive, they keep looking
at it till they discover the same.
If you think in negative terms,
you will get negative results. If you think in positive terms, you will achieve
positive results. Taking control of your attitude and maintaining control of
your attitude is not necessarily an easy thing, however if you are able to do
it you are a definite winner.
If you are not in control of your
attitude but you want to get control of it, you can get it by reviewing your
results and the actions. List down everything that you think is wrong. One
thing is for sure that everything has an opposite, you cannot have a bad
without a good, up without a down or hot without a cold. You can take anything
on this list of what is wrong and find out what is good about it. You have to think
and look for the good side in every action. Our own attitude begins with our
own thinking and we must remember we do have a choice. We can consciously make
winners choice and respond to the situation or react to the situation. If we
react we lose, when we respond we winner.
The problem with most people who
continually lose because they are generally not making a conscious choice, they
are doing this unconsciously. It’s a habit, they have the habit of reacting to
life rather than responding. Having a poor or negative attitude is frequently a
part of the persons conditioned nature, it is habitual. The same is also true
for positive attitude.
Winner’s attitude is contagious.
A negative attitude is a dis-integrating force, a positive attitude is a
creative growth force. Love the negative person, if for no other reason but at
least for the opportunity they give you to practice developing a conscious
control over your attitude. Always remember, God never gives us a problem we
are not equipped to handle. There would be no mental growth if everything was
always rosy, there would be no need for it. Even the winner may go astray at
times, they may get knocked down and lose it, however they will not stay down.
Everybody makes mistake, no one is perfect. Perfection is what the winner
strives for, but has not yet reached. The winner is aware of the basic truth
that attitude is the foundation of all success. It is the power principle which
every winner has mastered. Turn it into a habit. The winner can go broke, they
may lose everything they have and may do so number of times, however they
refuse to lose control over their attitude and as a result they are back on top
in a short time.
Your attitude towards the world
and everything in it, will determine the world’s attitude towards you. By
maintaining control over the way you think, feel and act you causes good things
to happen in your life and you magnetize yourself to good. Those who have poor
attitude actually attracts actually negative situations into their life. These
people fervently believes that winners are lucky. That is the very reason why
most losers do not even try to win. They believe in luck and they are never
very excited for the luck they are having. To get luck on your side and to make
an evergreen attitude for yourself, you should focus on the following ten
attitude forming emotions:
1. Love
and warmth: the consistent expression of love seems to be able to melt almost
any negative emotion it comes in contact with. For example, if someone comes to
you in a state of hurt or anger and you consistently respond to them with love
and warmth, eventually their state will change and their intensity will melt
away.
2. Appreciation
and gratitude: Appreciation and gratitude are two of the most spiritual
emotions, actively expressing thoughts and actions for all the gifts life has
given. Cultivating this emotion is cultivating life. Live with an attitude of
gratitude.
3. Curiosity:
If you really want to grow in your life, learn to be as curious as child.
Children know how to wonder – that’s why they are so loving. Cultivate
curiosity and life becomes an unending study of joy.
4. Excitement
and passion: Excitement and passion can add juice to anything. Passion can turn
any challenge into a tremendous opportunity. Passion is unbridled power to move
our lives forward at a faster tempo than ever before. Man is only truly great
when he acts from his passions.
5. Determination:
To create lasting value in this world and to deal with upsets and challenges,
you need to have a strong determination. Determination means the difference
between being stuck and bring struck with the lightening power of commitment. With
determination you can accomplish anything. Without it, you are doomed to
frustration and disappointment. Our willingness to do whatever it takes, to act
in spite of fear, is the basis of courage and remember courage is the foundation
from which determination is born.
6. Flexibility:
Choosing to be flexible is choosing to be happy. Throughout your life there
will be times when there will be things you will not be able to control. In
these situation, your ability to keep yourself flexible in your way of working
will determine your long-term success or failure.
7. Confidence:
The only way you can consistently experience confidence, even in environment
and situations you have never encountered previously is through the power of
faith. Whether you have confidence or not is nothing to do with what is
happening outside of you, it is determined by what is going on inside of you.
It will be your confidence that will keep you going when your ideas are
rejected, you got to be your own best friend, you got to learn to love
yourself.
8. Cheerfulness:
Cheerfulness enhances your self-esteem, makes life more fun, and makes people
around you feel happier as well. Cheerfulness has the power to eliminate the
feelings of fear, hurt, anger, frustration, disappointment, depression, guilt
and inadequacy of life.
9. Vitality:
If you do not take care of your physical body, it’s more difficult to be able
to enjoy these emotions. Make sure that physical vitality is available,
remember that all emotions are directed through your body. Realize that sense
of vitality is a critical emotion to cultivate in order to handle virtually any
emotions that come up in your life.
10. Contribution:
The secret of living is giving. There is no richer emotion in life than the
sense that who you are as a person, something you have said or done had added
to more than just your own life, that somehow it has enhanced the life’s
experience for someone you care about or someone you don’t even know. Each day
we should cultivate that sense of contribution by focusing not only on
ourselves, but on others as well.
Plant the above emotions daily
and watch how your attitude changes in all situation resulting in your whole
life growing with a vitality that you have never dreamed of before. Believe and succeed.
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